Social #5 - Life Defining Social Lives

Entry 7

Okay, I normally blog when something in my life gives me inspiration, but for now I'll blog for the sake of it. Pardon the lack of topics.

Today I shall go in-depth sort of into Life Defining Social Lives. In this time and day, with modern means of communications, smartphones, social networking, our social circles eventually begin to define most of us, since opinions are what defines our social standpoint on the social scale. When people don't stand out, or don't have any interests or hobbies, they tend to dwell into the social aspect a little more than most do since its the only thing they can do as a stress reliever from studies or work. This creates a stronger craving for social interaction with people. Eventually this will lead to relying on people to validate your existence. Most people would see this as a lack of personality and character. Instead, you should take this opportunity to define your character and get to know yourself better. I know I have. Spending lots of time with yourself really gets you thinking on how you act and why you do so. Studying your own actions also helps.

When one begins to rely on social circles to define him or herself, the circle of friends he or she creates are usually those that are, fake. Fake, as in they aren't real friends. They are simply friends that ask favors of you and you do what you can to please them. And once you open your eyes and take one good look at your friends again, you'll see that they aren't really your friends. You'll find yourself alone, maybe one or two real friends, but alone. Take this chance to find yourself, define yourself. Slowly re-evaluate your friends.

Once you have done so, start re-expanding your circle and getting mutual real friendships. Get someone to call your own best friend so you would never be alone. Sure, earning the favors of people will assist in this conquest, but always ensure that they would also sometimes do the same for you if they were your friends. This isn't necessarily for friends, but, treat others how you would like them to treat you. You have to take the first step, seize the opportunity. If you want to be well-liked, do favors. If you want real favors, its their job to help you out as well. Both persons have to go half way and do the same for each other. 

And as always, thanks for reading this wordy stuff. I'll try to make it more reader-friendly. 

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