Social #8 - Honesty

Entry 15

Honesty... What is Honesty... Exactly? Honesty, simply put, would to be free of deceit and lies.

I have mentioned this before, but I shall do it again to spare you the trouble of checking other entries I blogged, "Lies are what keep one's social status at equilibrium." If you don't understand, it simply means that lies prevent your social status from tipping out of your favour in social circumstances. This saying usually applies to all lies, assuming they are logically made.

Honesty is the enemy of lies and deceit, so...
Honesty - Lies And Deceit
And since Lies are there in social circumstances to help you in your social life and to prevent awkward circumstances and outcome that may negatively affect your social standpoint in the social scale, we can say that Honesty is against your social status. What I mean by that is well, for example, when you have an honest opinion that may hurt the other party, announcing it would give a negative impression on that yourself as someone who is 'mean'. Whereas announcing a socially approving statement that does not directly harm the other party would not hinder your public figure but instead would be against your honest opinion.

So honesty and lies are in a constant conflict when it comes to making a reply or comment, as the overall outcome that is commonly desired would be one that is socially approving and does not negatively hinder your public figure. Making the right reply or comment will always come down to priorities. Do you value your public figure more than your morals? In this time and day, honesty is looked down upon as 'inappropriate' and 'rude'. Although blunt honesty may be the truth, the truth hurts. And that is seen today as a social assault on the other party. So be wary on your choice of words, as the same message can be conveyed through different choices of words, where some of which are inappropriate and where some are. Eventually, the truth will set you free, and you'll learn to live with it.

If you value your morals more and prefer honesty, consider your usage of words before talking to not offend the other party. If you value your public figure more and have to lie to yourself and everyone, give the most ideal answer you can possibly give in that situation, to gain more social status.

I'm trying to keep these entries short from now on, so that it won't hurt your eyes as much, and as always, reality... Find a way out.

Ideals And Reality #5 - Hope

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Hope, what is hope... Exactly?

Hope would be to have an expectation or desire for something to occur... An event? A course of action? This is simply the definition, but I'm not done.

In daily life, Hope is usually entangled between the conflicts of ideals and reality. For instance, Hope may be associated with ideals as one would normally hope for the ideals of that day to occur, such as an event that may seem pleasing. However, Reality usually crushes those instances of hope for ideals. I use the word entangled, as the ideal hope for that day may vary depending on the amounts of idealism and realism subscribed to by the person. Find out more at  "A Realist and An Idealist" , another entry of mine. 

I say this because if one who has a strong belief in idealism has an ideal hope that may seem impossible for the day/(any period of time), he/she would normally set himself/herself to achieving that goal with willpower and effort. If you have a strong belief in realism however,  you would set the hope of the day/(any period of time) to low expectations and a normal routine of daily life that may not suit your ideal tastes, but you know that it would not get any better as you have embraced reality. 
For one who has healthy amounts of realism and idealism in a balance, would often struggle to find a hope that may prove ideal, yet real. It will normally exist in a small conflict in your head, as in your head you know you cannot mix ideals and reality up or the balance of idealism and realism will collapse.

One of the keys out of this conflict would be to abide by this saying "If you have no will to go anywhere, then it doesn't matter where you go". This saying is a positive one, and a negative one at the same time. It is positive in the sense that you won't have any worries or struggles. Its is negative in the sense that you have no expectations or goals to achieve at all. Or, you could also simply deal with the conflict and lower your hopes to one that seems the least repulsive and seems possible in reality.

Hope may also be that one essence in your heart where you may find peace in treacherous times, the desire for an ideal route to occur in reality.




Pardon the slight nudity (if you are sensitive to these things). But this picture just shows how hope is one of the few escapes from reality, to bridge ideals and reality to give a sense of relief in one's life.

http://yuumei.deviantart.com/art/Hope-and-Despair-134337412


They say only the realest of people may find their dreams, whereas idealists may never as their dreams and hopes are too high up, where reality cannot even think of reaching. This saying may seem like it takes the realist's side, but that dream that the realist was aiming to achieve should not have been as rewarding as the hope of the idealist. Thus, emphasising the need of balance between idealism and realism in one's self. The meaning of hope, is different to everyone. To me, its one of the few essences that bridges ideals, and reality. And as always, escape reality.

Ideals And Reality #4 - A Realist and An Idealist

Entry 13

A Realist.

Definition from Urban Dictionary

Realists have a firm grip on reality and can see things for what they are, not what they are told they are. Realists have their own views and do not fall victim to propaganda, misconception, or titles!

Simply put, they tend to see through the illusions of reality and have the ability to put an end to hopes, dreams, Ideals. They are simply the enemy of imagination and possibility and believe that whatever hopes and dreams that people have that do not seem possible, will never happen. Its a pessimistic way of thinking, but also can be helpful at times. Helpful, in the sense that they can break the unwanted illusions of others and can 'snap them out of it'. For instance, when someone does badly for an exam, one would normally dread about it for a few days, weeks. A normal Realist would tell them that it is pointless dreading over something that happened, but to work for something possible in the future. This crushes the illusion conjured by the person's sadness from the results and will continue to live normally once again. Well, not 'normally', but you know what I mean right? 

An Idealist.

Definition from Google

a person who is guided more by ideals than by practical considerations.

Again simply put, they see everything as it is, but tend to believe that they can be more than what they are, especially people. They believe that any ideal is possible with willpower and perseverance and do not believe that nothing is impossible. Well, this is good to a certain extent. Its good to set goals that are achievable, but not to an extent that its impossible. Good Idealists tend to be guided by ideals that are possible and can be made if effort is put into it. For example, once the person has calmed down after the depression of not doing well for an exam, an Idealist would tell that person to set goals, achievable goals, and make that an ideal to seek. This creates an illusion disguised as a goal, a drive, to strive and achieve the ideal with sheer willpower and effort.

You can choose to live a life filled with illusions, as ignorance IS in fact bliss. But Realists tend to dwell in the sad truth, the sad truth that is reality and have unbreakable firm grips. Idealists are more or optimists and choose to believe in good things and do not look at reality to harshly. 

Its good to have a close-to-equal blend of realism and idealism as it allows for realisation to ideals and amendment to make them possible and achievable. In a social sense, allows for the skill of cheering people up to be greatly improved with the moral philosophy bonus. It also helps in projects and work when you want to propose something or improve the workplace or school. Leaning to far to one side may lead to pessimism or optimism, and optimism without control or realisation is not good. I shall go into-depth on that one day. Have a good balance, think carefully, and as always, thanks for reading. 

Ideals And Reality #3 - Perspective

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Perspective... What are perspectives? You could look at it in this way, viewing the same situation in different shades that bend reality in each one. "Its always and only about perspective". Perspective allows for people to see things in different light, empathising with another person to see something different.

For example, when a thief who steals food, to on-lookers it would seem that he is a criminal and should be put in jail for his wrong doings. But from the thief's perspective however, he is simply taking from the rich and giving to the poor to compensate for the corrupted government's actions. 

Perspective

On-looker's                Peasant's

Thief                    Hero

Steals for self gain      Steals to help the poor

Should go to jail       Should be honoured

From these two different perspectives, we can see that both perspectives are completely different and do not share much in common. What we should do, is to look at things from different perspectives before publicly judging. Publicly judging, because prejudgement is inevitable in your mind, but before publicly accusing someone of something, view it from different perspectives. For "Perspective Defines Reality". The word "define" is used, because at one glimpse it would not seem as what it truly is until you define it by viewing it from different perspectives and the truth is revealed. 

You can't blame yourself for not viewing things in ALL perspectives, but you should try to, as it expands your way of thinking and allows for clearer thoughts and solutions. Perspectives are what keep social structures stable, as they allow for common empathy between people to flow and determine their course of action depending on the situation. However, constant empathy can wear yourself out and may be a hinderance and a distraction to matters at hand. The key to such occasions is to only take perspectives and empathy into consideration during social circumstances, when your social standpoint and public opinion is at risk. 

When in seek of truth, juggle all the perspectives that you can take into your head and concentrate. If you can't fit them all, take not of the rest and do them separately. Juggle all the perspectives and think hard, take severe differences and similarities and piece the truth together. The truth will eventually reveal itself if you operate on logic and understand common human behaviour. You could always ask the source of the situation if you want to know the intention or cause of the situation.

If your comprehension of human behaviour and empathy is good, perspective can be a useful tool to solve unknown courses of actions or situations, and also can be used to turn the odds of social events into your favour if you manipulate them well. And as always, thanks for reading this wordy stuff!

Ideals And Reality #2 - Choice

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Choice, the act of choosing two or more possibilities. It is what defines our future and well being. An example would be the "Dating Sim Route Concept". In dating sim games, decisions are constantly made to determine the route taken and ending received. In life, normally one would want the easier route but with a good ending, but it isn't that simple. Would you prefer a more interesting life/route? Make the right decisions and life will be what you make of it. Thinking about the future and where each option takes you when making a decision is highly advised, being smart about decisions can trigger events into your favour.

Unlike Dating Sims, there is no save and load options in life, so making smart decisions would be preferable, for each mistake or bad decision you make, will be permanent. Live with the consequences and or repair them. There are even more decisions and choices to make when repairing and living through the consequences. You want the Ideal ending and route? Make it a reality, if you have the willpower.

Choices are always constantly being made by a person, so the emphasis and importance of each decision is usually rendered neglect-able. Don't be fooled. Even the choice of meals matter. Meals can cause you to gain or lose weight, affecting events and activities in the future, especially performance. The simple choice of wearing a new T-Shirt or a Polo Shirt can also affect your future. People may see your shirt and judge, based on looks and gives them a opinion which can be positive or negative, affecting your public social standpoint and opinion.

Sometimes when choices appear that don't appeal to you because the pros and cons of both choices do not suit your comfortability and you feel like not making a decision, the pros and cons will start to vary and cause further unbalance to the choices, hindering your decision greatly. Making quick and smart decisions are the best way to go, if you want the best for your life. Some people want lives that don't prove socially approving or healthy, even so decisions can be made to stray from those paths and follow other ideals.

"Yes" and "No" are common decision makers when it comes to two optioned choices. "Yes" Always accepts, good and bad. "No" Rejects everything, good and bad. Personalities often adapt to these words and form a new person of different mindsets. An optimist or a pessimist. However, "Yes" and "No" are tangled in an endless web, they contradict, connect and at the end of the day, determine the acceptation or rejection of variables that determine the future of your route.

Not knowing where you are going, which path you are taking, can be scary and dreadful. As if you were operating without logic and going with the median flow. Get a grip of yourself and decide where you want to go.


The only possible resets of routes/life known are incarnation (if you believe that), amnesia or migration. They are scary, but if they reset your route and bring you onto a better one that you can decide. And as always, thanks for reading this rather wordy stuff.

Social #7 - Awkwardness

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What does it take to be considered awkward?

Awkward
-causing or feeling uneasy embarrassment or inconvenience.
-causing difficulty; hard to do or deal with.

To be awkward, is to have issues in judgement and decision if it determines your social status. For example, a statement is made and its intended reaction was to affect your social standpoint, and you want to react in a way that proves pleasing to the audience as well as to the statement maker. Now, being awkward can sometimes be mistaken for being embarrassed. Don't mix the two up.

Now, awkwardness usually instills a hidden fear within one's self, a fear that the reaction and outcome will not suit everyone's expectations. The key to ending awkwardness, would simply be to not overthink it. Do what is right, and all the negative reactions received will soon realise the judgement in decision you made was not wrong but the right thing to do. Awkward issues should be addressed as soon as possible and are more important than regular issues. Since all awkward issues target your social status and standpoint, they tend to cloud your mind with questions like "How should I react?" or "What should I do about her/him?" and rob you of your ability to think critically. This causes something similar to emotional stress. You spend time thinking about these issues and they tend to hurt your 'heart', if you will. (This may be the most juicy thing I've blogged in ages). These issues cloud your mind, which rid you of the opportunity and time to address the regular issues in life, which are usually less thought about and easily solvable. These statements may not apply to everyone, but they definitely apply to the modern socially average person. If you work under pressure unlike me well, then you can handle awkward situations very well.

I know the modern instinct would be to avoid awkward issues and let it be. But awkward issues that involve people close to you may never cease, unless addressed. Awkward issues such as these do not follow the phrase, "Time heals all wounds". Awkward issues that involve people close to you are like wounds, and if not treated properly, will always leave a scar, a permanent mark. These issues require closure, a resolve that proves ideal to those involved and once that is established, proper healing can begin. 

There is no socially approving way to prevent awkward things from ever happening, but what people can control is what happens after. I loosely quote words I heard from Ben 10 Alien Force, "It's not about what you did, but about what you're going to do." As much as everyone hates awkward things, it is inevitable. Just handle it right before it gets out of hand. If it gets out of hand, do everything in your power to stop it, once and for all and things may turn out pleasing.

Awkward situations, if handled well and properly, can boost the affection levels of the audience if you take the right route through the maze of booby traps that may affect your public figure. The length of the maze and amount of booby traps that you could potentially set off depends on the seriousness of the situation. Thanks for reading.

Social #6 - Friends

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Friends... What are friends? Besides being a "person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual or family relations". In this day and age, the word friend is misused so commonly that the misusage of the word might have become its definition. Friends may simply be people you 'hang out with' or 'have fun with'. But the term friends has much more meaning to that, pardon my corny sentimentality here. Now, the well-being of a friendship is usually determined by the initial impact, the first meeting as so to speak, like all relationships. The impact is key as it determines the route of the friendship and what challenges lie ahead. The initial impact is like the trunk of a tree, it has to be strong to support a better relationship further on. For example, whenever you feel that you doubt your friend, you'll always have that good first impact with your friend and your initial experiences with him or her. From here, the route that the trunk takes you may have its bumps, but the strong base or impact will usually keep it intact. However, if the base or impact is not strong, then it only relies on the mutual feelings of both individuals. Both have to want this friendship in order to achieve it. The friendship will collapse if the bumps are not handled very well. However, the friendship will prosper with each bump overcame. Now, the ideal meaning of friendship would basically be the person that would 'stick by you', 'always by your side' and 'does what is best'. Which is what I believe most friendships should be about. However, staying by your friend's side even though your friend's side is the wrong one would make you a bad friend. You should always support your friends, but also do not let them stray from the ideal and good path. Before you begin to overcome the bumps, consider your own feelings towards that person before advancing as once you establish a better connection with your friend, your friend will constantly have those feelings towards you as well, so there is no backing out unless you are a bad person. Friendships can also be tools, in order to gain personal items or subject material, social status perhaps. Friendships such as these tend to crumble easily, and sometimes the eagerness to achieve those items may hide your true feelings towards that person, causing self deception.  Thank you very much for reading, I really do appreciate it. And as always, thanks for reading this wordy stuff.

Romance #1 - Social Network's Impact

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Hm... Okay, here it goes.
Now, as romance has evolved over the years, it has been slowly more corrupting and impure, pardon my selfishness in this blog. So, ever since the rise of the internet age, more and more relationships begin and end faster than they normally should. In this time and age, many inventions have been created to replace human contact, which is one of the primary reasons why relationships start and end more quick than they should. Texting, words that convey messages without any emotion or human contact. Reading someone's text always allows for imagination. For example, if you are angry at someone, you would see his or her texts as purely hostile when they do not actually intend it to be. Similarly, when lovers text, they usually imagine the ideal response and tone that their partner would have given in response with the text their partner sent.

This usually leads to misunderstandings and clouded judgement when thinking about the topic. Thus, many refuse to even think about it. However, I disagree as romantic relationships work best without social networking and mobile devices. Calls are exceptions however, as the sound and tone of the caller's voice would not be misunderstood or clouded. If you are attempting to conquer someone romantically, I strongly suggest you stop obsessively texting and start texting more seldom and maintain more regular face to face interactions instead of cold, heartless and emotionless texting. 

This is simply my speculation. The simple want for ideal and pure romance will never exist, but that does not mean we cannot work towards it and develop ideal ones that can possibly exist today. Initially I believed that pure romance only existed in the past without such devices to replace human contact. I still strongly do, but maybe there is a way for pure romance and the technological age to co-exist and still produce the dramatic ideals of romance. Or is this the end of the road for it? Who knows. Personally, I've had one particular 'relationship' which was almost purely based through text and call. I say 'relationship', because I was constantly unclear of what was happening. Relationships like these that include seldom actual human contact are just purely based on imagination and hopes. The hopes that you might one day actually be together with that person and imagination as if you were in a real relationship. Reality will hit and you'll realize it for yourself. Real relationships with more often face to face contact allows for you to get to know a person and not constantly have clouded imaginations of what that person is really like. 

Sorry that I wasn't in my 'mode'. My 'mode', being my super deep mode where I become all specular and all. My exams recently ended so I did not have much spirit into this, my apologies. Thanks for reading this long and wordy blog! 

Social #5 - Life Defining Social Lives

Entry 7

Okay, I normally blog when something in my life gives me inspiration, but for now I'll blog for the sake of it. Pardon the lack of topics.

Today I shall go in-depth sort of into Life Defining Social Lives. In this time and day, with modern means of communications, smartphones, social networking, our social circles eventually begin to define most of us, since opinions are what defines our social standpoint on the social scale. When people don't stand out, or don't have any interests or hobbies, they tend to dwell into the social aspect a little more than most do since its the only thing they can do as a stress reliever from studies or work. This creates a stronger craving for social interaction with people. Eventually this will lead to relying on people to validate your existence. Most people would see this as a lack of personality and character. Instead, you should take this opportunity to define your character and get to know yourself better. I know I have. Spending lots of time with yourself really gets you thinking on how you act and why you do so. Studying your own actions also helps.

When one begins to rely on social circles to define him or herself, the circle of friends he or she creates are usually those that are, fake. Fake, as in they aren't real friends. They are simply friends that ask favors of you and you do what you can to please them. And once you open your eyes and take one good look at your friends again, you'll see that they aren't really your friends. You'll find yourself alone, maybe one or two real friends, but alone. Take this chance to find yourself, define yourself. Slowly re-evaluate your friends.

Once you have done so, start re-expanding your circle and getting mutual real friendships. Get someone to call your own best friend so you would never be alone. Sure, earning the favors of people will assist in this conquest, but always ensure that they would also sometimes do the same for you if they were your friends. This isn't necessarily for friends, but, treat others how you would like them to treat you. You have to take the first step, seize the opportunity. If you want to be well-liked, do favors. If you want real favors, its their job to help you out as well. Both persons have to go half way and do the same for each other. 

And as always, thanks for reading this wordy stuff. I'll try to make it more reader-friendly. 

Picture: http://www.qriously.com/advox/

Social #4 - Emotional/Social Pain

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Well, emotional pain. The Worst Kind, if I may say so myself. It was more commonly used by women before the digital age and the rise of the smartphones and internet, I shall explain why further on.
       Now, I'm just quoting something I read somewhere online. But it basically goes along the lines of this. When Men want to hurt people, they physically beat you up and make you injured. But when Women want to hurt people, they mess with who you are, your location on the social scale. Men? They mess and bully, but they don't mess with who you are.

Today, most people resort to hurting people where it hurts most, not because they can, but its because its the only legal way since gossiping isn't a crime.

 Emotional or social pain usually comes when the adapted generations of our time pose a threat to each other's social circle. When you know that the opinions of your social circle aren't turning in your favour, your social life feels as if its in peril. You feel you just sunk to the bottom of the social scale. That is the pain. When life feels like its crumbling, even though not much has changed, physically. This is so, because we tend to care for the opinions of others deeply, which I explained further in The Factual Social Life #2

Feeling awkward? That is also a tinge of social pain, when you really don't know what to do. You're at a loss of judgement on which action to carry out. And when the awkward moment ends inevitably and you have not done a socially approving action, the social pain kicks in and screams, demanding an answer to why you did nothing at that moment. Now, the fact that everyone knows how to socially and emotionally attack someone, results in emotional/social damage. A.K.A, DRAMA. Drama, emotional/social damage with resolve and plot. Today's modern age allows for more common drama, sadly, online. Most of modern real dramatic scenes can only be interpreted through text online. Very few happen in real life, which saddens me. 

I believe such emotional and social damage should be dealt with not online, but in real life when human affection and presence is present. Because when one is angry with another, one cannot unleash emotional damage so easily in life, but when alone and online, being angry at a motionless tool such as the smart phone which displays irritating text allows for the anger to grow larger thus causing more common drama but not actual, drama.

We can usually ignore social and emotional pain by simply not caring. Play a game. Read a book. Watch videos. Escape from reality for a moment and relax your mind from such stressing issues that haunt you. Once you finished your break, think about it with a fresh mind. NOT AT NIGHT! Because people make the worst and most blinding decisions and thoughts then. And as usual, thanks for reading this wordy and must-be-boring stuff!

Ideals And Reality #1 - Ideals / Reality Bites

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Ideals... "Absolute Convictions That Transcend Reality" -The World God Only Knows (my favourite anime) Ideals are not what is perfect, but what you think is perfect. People need more ideals in their life, a goal to achieve, the ideal route. Always follow your ideals and push others on with them. The ultimate goal should be to share ideals with one another creating the 'perfect' world. I say 'perfect', because not all share the same ideals.

An ideal is a principle or value that one actively pursues as a goal, usually in the context of ethics. Ideals are particularly important in ethics, as the order in which one places them tends to determine the degree to which one reveals them as real and sincere. It is the application, in ethics, of a universal. It is roughly similar to the relative intrinsic values.

Someone who claims to have an ideal of honesty but is willing to lie to protect a friend is demonstrating that not only does he hold friendship as an ideal, but, that it is a more important one than honesty. Thus ideals can be seen to be similar to values. - Wikipedia

Intrinsic - Belonging naturally; essential.

For instance, evil people might have different ideals (values) than that of normal people. People dwell into ideals because reality bites, they want a better world with better things. Of course eventually they hit reality and logic and your whole ideal world falls apart. But you should work towards it and impose it on others, the future is what you make of it. Most good video games and movies which are popular seldom relate to real life, but resemble ideals and the ideal route to end a problem. Thats why we watch and/or play those things, its an escape from reality, the taste of a good ideal world.

It saddens most when we realize that ideals are never going to fuse with reality, but we should share our ideals and work towards it. When reality bites, we tend to go into hobbies and interests to escape reality and enter another where the rules of life are different. For example, photography. The cameras capture instances in reality. Good pictures are usually those that are extraordinary or are captured at good moments. In this hobby, the rules are different. The goal is to take good pictures and ignore everything else. There are no tests, or expectations or restrictions.

Thats why its best not to mix reality and fiction together. Fiction and anything non-existent are mere reflections of reality, through different shades. Ideals are simply looking through the shade you believe exists and how reality should be. Its good to have multiple escapes from reality so that one of them wouldn't bore you. Personally, I like to see ideal routes that lead to the ending. Thats why I and maybe others dwell into anime or novels. My personal goal is to discover many routes to life, and ones I find ideal. Because we all know how we love ideal things right?

When life gets you down, always look for the ideal route you want to take from there, and work towards the ideal ending, the prime time of your life. The ending of the ideal route really depends on where you want to end it. Marriage, death, achieving a goal, anything really. Just work towards your ideals and everything will fall into place. Ideals are convictions of reality because they aren't supposed to be in this world, banned, if you will. But the reality is no match for ideals, willpower can overcome these things and bring ideals into reality. Sorry for this being really dry, I worked on this thing for a few moments in a span of weeks, so I was not in my 'deep and emotional and passionate' mode. Hahaha, and as always, thanks for reading this really wordy stuff.

Social #3 - Expectations

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Expectations

Expectations.. People are so used to having high ones. They are what people use to define the pleasingness of the actions of others. But what are they for? They are Indirect Orders. I place a great emphasis on this because the expectations of others is a hinderance to any thought of action you plan to carry out. Because expectations affect their opinion of you deeply. Before you rob a bank, think about how the jury will judge you. Their expectations of a normal person would be NOT to rob a bank, but to live an orderly life. But you would dwell beneath their expectations if you DID in fact, rob a bank. And living up to their expectations, exceeding it positively or negatively, will sway their opinions of you, affecting your social standpoint deeply. 

Parents normally set high expectations for their children, for them to succeed them and do better then them. Such as the kings that give their heirs expectations to live up to. In the olden times, the people's opinions of the heir was important to establish a pleasing relationship as King to Peasant. The need for the child to live up to their parent's expectations is great, to gain a sense of respect from their parents is one of the few things offspring desire which leads to indirect orders.

Indirect orders occur when people say things such as "What do you think you should say?". For example, when parents are upset and they take away the items of their child and say "You can't have them back unless you say (what you think is right) / (what I want to hear ". At this point, the child is forced to live up to the expectations in order to get what he/she wants. Which is an indirect order. It would be even more indirect if the parent had not taken anything away from the child, and say that sentence. The child would be pressurized and forced to live up to the expectations to get the conversation and tension over with. Well, most Chinese families operate this way.

I'd really hand it to the Japanese for developing an amazing family system. The following are instances I've observed, but may not be entirely true for all. When a child does something bad, most parents from around the world would say not to do that. But when most Japanese and/or parents that believe in their ways have to discipline a child when he/she does something bad, they would tell the child to think how others would feel. Now, this inspires and creates a strong sense of empathy and sympathy as the child grows up and develops, and will affect any decision he makes. This embraces the expectations of others and cares deeply for the opinions of others. That is primarily the reason why most clubs and councils in Japanese Schools are student-run. Which I wish my school was like. This allows students and more or less the population, to speak out their opinions more often. Especially when the traditional 'stabbing yourself with a sword for either disgracing yourself or to honorably kill yourself before something worse does" routine occurs. I am unaware if it is still practiced, but the energy and determination to see it through comes from the expectations and inner discipline that the Japanese instill. Most Japanese students live alone, which allows for dependency growth and inner discipline.
"Japanese parents allowed their children to get into scrapes, she said, and felt that disagreements were character-building."

Read more online, or here "http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2013/05/what-american-parents-need-to-do-better-lessons-from-the-rest-of-the-world/"


When someone has expectations of you, you can either follow it to earn respect which is basically obeying an indirect order. Or don't live up to it and worsen the opinion of the other, which most people do not appreciate. So thus, most people are forced to attempt and live up to the expectations of others which makes expectations indirect orders. And as always,  Thanks for reading this incredibly boring and wordy blog. 

Social #2 - Know Your Place!/Who are you to Judge?

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I usually tell myself, "Know Your Place", whenever I feel awkward or might have done something inappropriate. Like, when you accidentally disrespect someone, that feeling comes out and haunts you for the rest of the occasion. Its a good principle to have in my opinion, to keep on telling yourself to "Know Your Place" since it helps determine the appropriateness of your actions. You'll always know when to keep quiet, and not go below people's regular expectations.

"Who are you to Judge?" Is a common complaint by those who act abnormally, or are mistaken to be abnormal. Who are you? Well, I'm a common person who looks at everything in the same light. When you 'Judge' someone, you normally look at someone and Judge based on your own values, unless you're an unreasonable and holds a grudge.
                  Matthew 7:1 "Do Not Judge, Or You Too Will Be Judged" is a verse taken from the Bible. For non-Christian readers, its basically like any other moral that justifies human behavior. It basically means that before you Judge someone, Judge yourself by the same standards. And I really really hate it when I see these phrases saying that people have to be perfect to Judge. Not necessarily perfect, but you have to Judge yourself by the same standards, assuming you're a nice and moralized person. It always helps to look at yourself before looking at the faults of others, which brings us back to "Knowing Your Place". 

Most people nowadays always forget to know where they stand on the social scale, and speak and act without a care for the feelings and opinions of others. Again, opinions of others is really important, refer to "The Factual Social Life #1" for a more in-depth explanation and examples. 

"Knowing Your Place" and questions like "Who are you to Judge" all eventually lead up to your social standpoint, your character and relationship with the surrounding audience. 

     --Depending on the social authority of the audience, if they are higher up in the social scale or lower, will determine your course of action. 
     --If your character's persona is at a lower or higher level, the impressions you leave are greatly affected. 
     --Familiarity with someone else's character will not allow one's actions to impact that person's impression of one's self very badly. 
These factors ultimately determine who you are on the outside, your social standpoint on the social scale. So, don't make people hate you. And as always, thanks for reading this wordy and boring stuff!

My Personal Life #1

Entry 2

Theres not much information I should release to the internet, but here it goes.

Well, for starters I got my kindergarten teacher expelled... I was laughing too hard when my teacher threw my friend's book to the back of the class. And I was picked up, still on the chair. And literally thrown out of class, suffering some injuries. Ha. Hahahaha.

Long story short, I found a love for photography, anime, and drama. And instantly I joined the Drama CCA in Secondary 1 and entered the committee the next year, which I'm overjoyed about. Its really a feat. I joined a 'nice' small group in my Church Youth Ministry and discovered people fun to hang out with, my 'clique'. Ha. But well, not every group is perfect. We do have some 'issues' and all, considering that we came together only because of gossip. I don't really have that MANY friends in school, only small groups of them. Since most of the boys in my school I find intolerable and annoying. Mostly because of their undeveloped brains and self centeredness. Oh well. My parents are like any Christian Chinese parents, enforce and moralize.

Well, after that my views on love which I will soon post about drastically changed. I saw that relationships that occurred around me and with me were nothing but pain. Manipulation. Immaturity. I often advise people not to get into them, but to no avail. Some people just have to see for themselves. You know the saying, a wise man learns from his mistakes. And wiser men learn from the mistakes of others? Well, for someone at the age in secondary school, its best they see for themselves. I'm not totally against it though, it fully depends on the maturity of both sides. Which can defer as everyone matures at different rates. But well, do it for the experience. But well, it may not turn out as a good experience. It may turn out like mine. My Melancholy. Well, ignorance IS in fact bliss. So don't think too much on the subject. Because that's for people like me, people who don't enjoy life the way most do. Well, thats all for now. Chow.

Social #1 - A Social Life

Entry 1

So, hope this doesn't bore you instantly, but this was put here just to widen your perspectives and think about things. #deep

So... What is a social life? Its the very thing that binds us together, your social standpoint, your position in the 'caste system', but still can be moved up or down. Its what defines you...Publicly. Yeah?Now, we all know we'd do lots of things to maintain our position, our place in someone's good side. Now, here comes my motto "Its only and always about perspective". Perspective is everything, but I won't go into too much detail on this now. Basically, people often judge others on what they feel is right. They judge based on morals and values, which is what puts you on the social standpoint between friend or foe, good or evil. 

Now, where you are on the social scale greatly affects your future. For example, when your convicted of a felony, and you want to get a job. The permanent judgement given to you in court, would stick with you for the rest of your life. And that social status is what will define your every move as the public sees it... Such as, pardon the slight sexism. When an innocent man accidentally falls onto a woman. It could be seen as an accident. Whereas when a man convicted of molestation falls onto a woman, it would be seen as attempted molestation or rape. But one will always attempt to tip the balance of the social scale with lies. Now, to me "Lies are what keeps one's social status at equilibrium". Equilibrium, where you aren't judged for something bad, or good. You're basically innocent as long as the lie prevails. But not all lies end well, soon they will lead to more lies and become a habit and it goes downhill from there.

Being too engrossed in one's social life will soon lead to relying on others to validate your own existence. But you must know that you do not need others to define you, but it is important to be at social equilibrium in this life. Sorry for too many words, sometimes I get caught up with being too deep and go on and on about these wordy things. I don't have that much experience coming from a secondary schooler, but this more or less sums up my findings and observations.  I shall post more in the future, for now, thanks for reading.